"I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself. Completely." Henry Rollins
I read something recently, at the recommendation of a friend.
(NO - not 50 shades of gray... I already read that.... no one needed to recommend THAT! ha)
Anyway - it's called The Iron by Henry Rollins. (feel free to click that link and read it yourself!)
When I read it - it sent my head into a tailspin!!! I felt every single word written there!!!
Don't you remember being a teenager.... and gosh there were SOOOOO many expectations... you had to dress a certain way, and talk a certain way, and attend certain parties, and go to certain places, and have certain friends.... I mean the EPITOME of high school was being "just like everyone else!" So you fit in!!! My oh MY how high school warps us for real life!!
I tell people all the time, the older I have gotten, the less I care what people think. And it's true. I don't NEED to be like anyone else.... I don't need to do anything but be ME! Now don't get me wrong. I don't walk around intentionally stepping on people or intentionally hurting people's feelings for the sport of it. But I HAVE learned as I've gotten older that accidentally hurting someones feelings is the least of my worries! Now don't get me wrong - we all want to be liked and accepted. And I'm not telling you to be a hateful old prude with no feelings..... I'm just saying - be you and be comfortable enough to be that... be at ease with who you are!
Remember.... #1 - no one is gonna take care of me, but ME! If the bills need to be paid, well I need to keep a job making enough money to PAY the bills. DUH!! It is no one else's responsibility but mine. If someone likes me or doesn't, I still have to take care of me. And the irony is - I don't have to work at a certain place, or dress a certain way, or go to certain places in order to get that done. I don't "need" someone else's approval. It's on me. Period.
This isn't high school people.
This is real life.
Your best friend isn't gonna be waiting at your locker to remind you how AWESOME you are (chances are the ones in high school that did that were likely talking about you behind your back!)
The reality of life is this - "nothing good comes without work and a certain amount of pain" (Rollins). Whether it be what you want out of life, what you want in your job, what you want in a relationship, what you want in your family, or what you want out of your mind body and soul..... good doesn't just appear. You must work for it. Sometimes you learn from the BAD in order to work for the good.
It's the circle of life!
And those hard times, those trials, those learning experiences.... the times that push you to the edge and you have NO choice but to keep going... it is out of THOSE times that you TRULY find WHO you are... WHAT you are made of.... the person that you are deep down inside. THOSE are the times to be thankful for.....
"I have never met a truly strong person who didn't have self-respect." (Rollins)
Out of those times, we look back and reflect.... look what you just survived... look what you just came through... and your still standing. You may have war wounds... there may be scars that stick around forever - but they only serve to remind you just how strong and resilient the human body and HEART truly are!!!!
.... and others will see THAT. Not who you dress like or who you act like or what you drive.... It doesn't work like that.... when people look at you - they should see the extra pep in your step... the way that you carry yourself... the pride in discovering who you truly are!!
"Strength reveals itself through character" (Rollins)
As adults, love who you are.... and love what made you who you are. Don't spend so much time trying to please everyone else...... who cares?! Hurt someones feelings (not on purpose... that's not what I'm saying) but stop running around trying to prove something to someone.... stop worrying that you aren't who someone thinks you are.
JUST. DO. YOU.
After all - God doesn't make mistakes...... he made you just as you are.
and be PROUD of it!!!!
She's the girl that believes what comes around, goes around.
The one that hopes for a better day. The one who won't give up on you.
She's the girl that's unlike the rest.
The one that spent her days smiling and her nights crying.
She's the girl that would love to be loved.
The one that looks so dang strong, but feels so dang weak.
She's the girl that picks herself up every time she falls.....