Monday, December 21, 2009

Motivational Monday :) The value of a tear..

“There is a sacredness in tears.  They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.  They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief...AND unspeakable love.”  ~Washington Irving~

Some people speak of tears as though they are some sign of weakness or vulnerability.  I beg to differ.  

There have been times in my life when things got so overwhelming that I just HAD to cry in order to heal.  That is not a bad thing and I don't think it implies weakness.  THAT, the TEAR, the ability to cry,  is a gift from God.  How else could you release all of that sadness and emotion from your body.  Sometimes there is just nothing better in the world than just having a really good cry... and letting it all out.  

And cry WITH someone, it's more healing than crying alone.  Call a friend, call your mom, call your sister, call ANYONE and just share...

My mom questions my openess all the time because she says that I share too much.  My mom is very private and I am the COMPLETE opposite.  It's my way of healing.  It IS empowering;  share and cry.  Is there ANY better therapy out there?!!


Not only are tears a great way to heal, but recently I have come to realize that sometimes, when life is just sooooo good, you overflow and guess what that makes...TEARS.  Tears of JOY.  TRUE tears of joy.  Did you even know that was possible??!!  There are times that I look at my son or my son says something to me, and I can't help but think about how far we have come in life and sometimes, it's just too much.  And I cry.

Sometimes I look at Adam and wonder how God can love me THAT much to give me all that I have in my life right now.  Sometimes, I look at Adam with his daughters and you can just FEEL how much he loves them and it's just overwhelming.
.....and I overflow.

YES - there are many many times when I cry.... tears of desperation and tears of true and utter JOY.... that no one ever knows about but me and God.
I am most thankful for the gift of tears....
(well ok - AND for the unspeakable love in my life that catches me by surprise from time to time...)

If you are overwhelmed this year.......Christmas is just around the corner.. your shopping is not done, your out of money, your family is driving your crazy - WHATEVER the cause....  Take a minute....alone... or with a friend or your husband or wife ...and just cry!  Let out the stress and the anxiety and leave it behind.  Those tears of overwhelming stress....will leave you with only TEARS of OVERWHELMING JOY!  I promise!

I hope that everyone has a wonderful SHORT work week this week and I wish you ALL a VERY VERY Merry Christmas and I pray that you will take the time to remember the true meaning of Christmas and maybe you too might overflow this Christmas season!!


MJ said...

Tami - okay, did you know that I needed to hear this?? And what is the uncanny likely hood that you would choose almost the exact same picture as what I used Sunday.
Thank you dear for your WONDERFUL post.
Merry Christmas

Tami G said...

Oh MJ - I just read your post and I'm so sorry I'm just now reading it! BUT - how cool is it that my blog was so fitting?!?! God truly works - again - we just have to LET HIM!!! I hope it helped some :)
MUCH LOVE to you darlin and I hope that today and every day after just get better and better for you!

MERRY Christmas to you and your family =)

Daffy said...

Your inner light is such a beacon of hope for others. What an awesome gift you have!

Anonymous said...

Tami, you're right, it feels so relieving to cry it all out, when we need to.


Tattoos and Teething Rings said...

This is interesting to me; I grew up in a house where we didn't really cry, and when I see other people cry I get a little weirded out. I hardly ever cry, and when I do, it's usually because I'm steaming hot angry. Of course, God gave me the most sensitive little girl in the WORLD, who cries at the drop of a hat, so I'm getting better!

Laura said...

I'm emotional as well. Both tears of joy & sadness. While I completely agree that I use my tears to not only heal, but as well it is the clean slate to move forward in emotional moments. For me a tear or tears lets me reflect in the emotional moment so that I can then think more clearly without all the emotions.

However, I live with a big group of privately emotionally people whom end up feeling overwhelmed by my outward display of emotions. It is a difficult balance where they view my tears as an inability to control my emotions vs seeing that it is therapeutic for me.

Nicely written & glad to know I'm not alone!

Tami G said...

Daffy - you are too kind! I try REAL hard to always find the silver lining and smile. Some days are harder than others.

Secretia - yes - it is pretty amazing...

TnT Rings - my house was the same way. NO emotions were shared. no hugging, no crying, no I love you's, NOTHING. Maybe that is why I am sooo emotional now... I surpressed it for so long. And good for your little girl, amazing how a child can break us of things like that.

Laura - I grew up in a house like that - my mother is solid as a rock. If SHE cries - something is REALLY wrong....or overwhelming. Although - over the years, she has softened a bit, she still can't understand my openness with my emotions and words... My family is overwhelmed by emotions at times too, but not my son. I have raised him to KNOW that it's ok to be honest with everything. Even your feelings.. People love us or they hate us ;-) ha ha

Vodka Logic said...

When I get mad I cry sometimes. I always thought it looked weak.. glad to read your blog today

Holly said...

I good cry always helps rdifferent reasons. I used to hate crying, but now I just recognize it is me and whatever! I got some catching up to do over here!

JennyMac said...

I think crying is an important part of expression, peace, and release.

kys said...

A good cry can be very cathartic.