It's kinda like Hollywood; it's not always real life!!
It's really easy to photoshop that 6-pack and paint on that sunshiny smiley face and fake out some motivational "quotes"!
Maybe I AM too hard on myself...
*OK OK _ I AM too hard on myself*
BUT I guess that is what has always kept me striving to be better! STRONGER!
And at the same time - it can also put me on my knees in a heartbeat!!
I don't NEED anyone else to judge me or criticize me, I do it enough myself!
*which is also probably why I get SOOOO defensive when someone DOES criticize me!*
hmmmmmm - WOW - I just had a revelation there!!!
Anyway......
As many of you know (if you follow me or know me AT ALL)
I am divorced.
The big "D" word!!!
NOT knocking ANYONE out there who IS divorced... because shit happens. We all know that. Sometimes divorce is out of your hands. It was OUT of mine. I didn't make the decisions that took me down that road. Nevertheless, that "D word"... that "check the box"... that "defining" of me STILL bothers me today. NOT because I was wrong,
And definitely NOT because I'm not happier now that I've ever been!
~I have a guy that is like none other! He loves me, respects me, is there for me...... he's my best friend! He makes ME a better person.~
But MORE because I think it makes me feel like I failed at something. I don't like that. Period. It makes me feel damaged. Broken. Not worthy.
And I hate that feeling.
I hate that I LET someone make me feel that way.
I know it's up to ME to change that feeling..... but sometimes it gets the best of me. EVEN when I know I'm better off and that was a road I should have never gone down. EVEN then... I tend to self inflict that pain and the act of "failing"
(yes yes - I'm twisted - I KNOW!!!)
Anyway - I have digressed.... here is what I'm getting at.
I get on Instagram and the Interwebz and I see all these girls...... some SMALLER than me... lifting these ridiculously INSANE pounds of weights!! **And it inspires me**
I go to the gym and I KNOW that it's possible because I've seen it done! Then I get under a light weight and learn that my form is crap. I'm not low enough... I'm not sitting back enough... I'm not square enough... my elbows are not where they should be.... I'm not progressing.
My numbers don't go up.
Am I not working as hard as those girls?
Do I not have what it takes?
Am I NEVER going to get a correct form down?
Will I EVER be someone that people look at and are inspired?
FRUSTRATING!!!
I'm NOT just going through the motions. I do work hard.
I work out 4 days a week.... for 3+ hours at a time!!!
Maybe I should go to seven?
I lift hard when I'm there.
Maybe it's not hard enough?
So I go... I do what I planned to do as far as my work out goes..... sometimes I even do extra.
But then some nights... it's as though I can't do ANYTHING right.
I'm NEVER going to feel comfortable.
I'm never going to feel confident.
Weights are a funny thing like that....
I go in one night not even wanting to be there.... I wanted to stay home. And I PR on deadlift.
Then I go in another night feeling confident in my squat... only to have the Nazi police yell "LOWER"... and all is crushed. The confidence I felt is gone.
I immediately feel like I can't get it right.....
{INSERT LIFE}
and the carry over.....
some days....
I feel like I've screwed up there too!
Please don't read this and think I'm just having a PITY PARTY for myself today.
That is not it at all.
I just think we are ALL guilty of getting on the dang INTERWEBZ and seeing people who INSPIRE us......but unfortunately - like the airbrushed people in the magazines - the SUNSHINE and RAINBOWS isn't always REAL!!!! We have to remember that!
ESPECIALLY us as women!!!
Not just in lifting weights - but in LIFE!
Yes - that girl is "happily" married to HUNKY McDREAMY..... but no-one knows that he beats the crap out of her at night?!! She puts on a pretty face and we think her world is perfect! And we wonder why WE can't have HUNKY McDREAMY?
Yes - that tiny little girl lifts more than you and has ABS of STEEL.... but her mom died last year and she still struggles NOT to go home and drink a bottle of vodka every night before bed! And we wonder how or WHY she spends SO much time in the gym?
We all have battles and daily struggles. Right?!!
So - sure it's nice to get online and SHINE your beautiful light to inspire girls all around you.
But - let's be real too.
I WANT to inspire people
but I want to be REAL too.
When I'm feeling DOWN and FRUSTRATED - I say I'm down and FRUSTRATED. I'm not gonna FAKE sunshine to cover up my tears!
I LOVE to lift...
I WANT to be a GREAT powerlifter!!
I want people to be INSPIRED
But I don't want people to think I just woke up one day and deadlifted 300 pounds! and it was EASY!
It's NOT!
There are DEFINITELY nights that I feel like I'm wasting my time and I spend more of the night in TEARS than in confident SMILES!!
I want to be OK with being divorced and the decisions I've made!
I want to be OK with slow progress in the gym.
But some days - they get the best of me and I want to punch a car!!
Some days facing those decisions and seeing those failures HURTS..... and I won't pretend that it doesn't..
I want you to believe ANYTHING is possible
But I don't want you to think it's ALWAYS going to be easy.
I will strive to INSPIRE - but I will also always strive to be REAL
Some may see that as WEAK and vulnerable.
I just think it's REAL
and isn't it about time that we ALL got REAL with each other!
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